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Famous - or infamous?

by - Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Today we caused a bit of controversy! Not one, but two of our projects were posted on Apartment Therapy today. I had submitted our little chair makeover to the folks at Ohdeedoh, thinking they may want to share it with their readers. And they did! You can see that post here. Well, the writer poked around our blog and liked our renovations so she did this post on our bathroom on the Apartment Therapy main site, as part of their bathroom month series.

And what a response it received -- to the tune of 62 people (so far) chiming in - to say how much they hate our bathroom renovation!! Okay - I exaggerate, only 90% actually hate it :) I'll admit, when you have that many people telling you they don't like what you've done, lots of thoughts run through your head... shock, anger, defensiveness, sadness, curiousity, incredulity, and ambivalence were just a few.

But now that I've had a few hours to absorb those comments, I can be a bit more objective about things. I get that our projects are rather atypical of the Apartment Therapy aesthetic. We're much more traditional and conservative in our tastes and our home reflects that. I can see how people would think our monochromatic bathroom boring. Or how they would think the hand-painted mural was lovely - without knowing it covered all four walls and ceiling and made the 5'x8' bathroom feel claustrophobic. I can even understand their appall at how we removed the jacuzzi tub and pedestal sink even though these things didn't fit our family's needs (functionally or aesthetically).

At first, I thought I would respond on the AT site and clear up misconceptions and provide more information about why we did the things we did... but then I thought, "Why do I care?" The folks who left comments likely have tastes far different from mine and there is nothing I could say to convince them that yes, we made the best decisions possible, that we considered all the alternatives, that in context of our neighbourhood/house style/lifestyle/personal needs our choices were sound, that our sweat and effort was worth it.

For those of you that did land here via Apartment Therapy - Welcome! Please poke around. I hope you stay awhile. And for those who only peeked in the door and decided this place was not for them, I hope you have your own happy place to go home to. We're crafting these rooms into a home that suits us, no matter what others may say - and as homeowners, shouldn't that all be our goal?

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72 comments

  1. Oh BLAH! That would be so hard to see! Good for you for taking the high road -- I'd be a baseket case and would probably actafool, big time.

    You are exactly correct, to each their own! Your bathroom is beautiful and breathtaking to hundreds of other people!

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  2. Your bathroom is lovely, but most important is that you guys love it. I think its great, your design got people talking!

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  3. Grr. Apt Therapy readers are notoriously mean. I don't even read the comments (most of the time!) if they post something from my blog. It makes me crazy.

    Your bathroom is lovely! I would kill for those floors. WOW!!

    xx
    jenny

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  4. While I guess everyone's entitled to an opinion but in my opinion, some of the comments on AT were just plain rude. Don't let 'em get you down.

    I think your bathroom is an oasis of calm; your tile "mat" is exquisite and your bridge faucet is lovely.

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  5. That's a bummer, but like Allison said, good for you for not responding. Your room works for you & your family and in my opinion - its gorgeous!

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  6. I totally would have done the same thing and I'm a HUGE at fan/reader.

    It looks great - don't let yourself get down! We all work within what we have. You did a great job!

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  7. Oh you have to laugh , are these people blind for god's sake , you know you bathroom is beautiful and that the before was down right dreadful with all that colour you did the world justice to improve it the way you did.
    Keep in mind there seems to be a trend with basher comments on AT , negative nellies is all .

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  8. Your bathroom is perfectly lovely. And you are correct when you say a bathroom needs to be fuctional for your family. That mural sucked in that space and this is from someone who loves Monet. You deserve a medal for obliterating that "faux french impressionist" eyesore from the face of this earth.xx

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  9. I'm more of a lurker, and I rarely comment. But, I absolutely love your bathroom. I actually showed the photos to my husband yesterday because I love it so much. I think it's kind of sad that people are so quick to judge other people's homes and style, particularly at places like Apartment Therapy. I think it's as much jealousy as anything. Everyone else wishes their homes were great enough to be there. But, they chose you for a reason. Because it's gorgeous.

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  10. I'm a new reader b/c of ohdedoh and your bathroom is absolutely marvelous. Don't listen to anyone.

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  11. Love your choice not to explain. Agree with Jenny of LGN and the others - Apt. Therapy commenters are often very harsh and judgmental based on their own personal preferences.

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  12. I love your bathroom updates. Don't worry about those crazy comments at AT. I was shocked when I read them!

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  13. For the record, I love your bathroom. :)

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  14. I HAVE THE BEST READERS! Thanks everyone :)

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  15. Oh. My. Goodness.

    Although a lot of the readers have valid points and there's some good work here and there, to be honest, I don't even bother with Apartment Therapy anymore.

    There are so many, many things that I could respond with, but I won't. I think you covered it.

    And anyone who thinks that mural should have stayed it blind.

    Kelly

    p.s. I've commented before about the detailing of your bathroom, right? Understated, classic, clean. It reads the way a bathroom should.

    p.p.s Okay, I lied. I do have to make one comment about the "boring" opinions. THEY'RE WRONG.

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  16. Oh that must have been hard....but Kim is right they chose it for a reason and I love what you did with it! And the most important thing is that you love it and it works for your family!

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  17. Your bathroom (and entire home) is lovely. I've seen a lot of homes on AT that I don't love, but that is fawned over. I also think their readership tends to be negative. If I don't like something, I'd never take the time to log in and comment.

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  18. i don't know what those readers are thinking...that mural is great...if you're a GRANDMA! i think your after is awesome! :)

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  19. The after is amazing and 100% the right choice for you. The mural is in a better place now - where grandmas in heaven can peacefully stare at it after drinking a nice Benefiber shake.

    That's all.

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  20. Your bathroom is lovely. Very traditional and clean looking, which I like in a bathroom. The Monet mural wouldn't have floated my boat either. Love your blog - great ideas and wonderful projects.

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  21. I gotta say it, most of the readers of Apartment Therapy are weirdos that like to pick apart people's spaces. That is why I really don't read that site very often. You can only read so much negativity. I love your bathroom! Funny that you didn't even submit it, and this happens!

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  22. Tatyana12:20 AM

    Hi, I've read your blog for a while (since your office project on ikeahacker) and normally don't comment but I just had to say I LOVE ALL THE WORK YOU HAVE DONE IN YOUR HOUSE! (ok, I had to yell it). I absolutely agree that your choices are based on many considerations. My husband and I live in an expensive town and buying real estate and putting money into it makes you really consider what to do to the place for resale value (even if you choose not to ever sell) so we have chosen a classic and timeless look like you. I considered submitting our kitchen remodel to AT but my overly-sensitive self probably couldn't handle the negative comments.
    Thank you for all the lovely inspiration.

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  23. Fuck em. Seriously, I get that anyone that invites people {even virtually} into their home might be slighted by a rude comment, but these people aren't living there, you are. If you love it, that is all the opinion you need.

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  24. Ignore the haters! You and your husband have thoughtfully created a space that works for your family and is absolutely gorgeous!

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  26. You hit the nail on the head. That's your home. It doesn't matter what others think about your removations in a home that you live in. I personally think that you have done a fabulous job.

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  27. I love your bathroom, I was just looking at it for inspiration for our upcoming BA remodels. Don't listen to the trolls.

    I'm sure if you'd posted "After" pics with that mural you would have gotten a ton of snarky responses about that!

    Your bathroom is lovely, esp with that new door!

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  28. LOL are you kidding me? Blind people. You did such a fantastic job that it is ridiculous! Your attention to every detail is really admirable.

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  29. I think your bathroom is gorgeous! Different strokes for different folks, i guess. I will say that in my old house, i had a bathroom of the exact same size and layout, and i totally understand the challenges and constraints of renovating such a small space. I think what you have done is outstanding. And certainly a much nicer environment to do your business than the faux enchanted forest.

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  30. I also tend to stay away from Apartment Therapy. The readers are generally far too negative and for the most part, totally unconstructive. So, who cares what they think. Your bathroom is beautiful and you like it, so that's all that matters.

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  31. Don't sweat it... they liked my orange bathroom before and my goodness it was the most atrocious thing I've ever seen in my entire life. I just laughed at them and thought... "they can't be serious can they?" and then it made me even more proud of what I did... regardless if they didn't like! Like others have said, AT commenters are hyper critical of everything... unless it's an ugly before picture... then they like it! :)

    Your bathroom is BEAUTIFUL timeless and classic and it's been bookmarked on my computer for MONTHS because I LOVE IT!

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  32. WHAAAATTTT??? This MUST be an April Fools joke. It doesn't make any kind of sense whatsoever that so many people would dislike your new bathroom that much and that they prefer the before...
    I think you got caught!! ;)

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  33. Hi, I'm a new follower, and I just wanted to drop by to say what everyone else is, and what you already know - don't let them bother you. I LOVE your new bathroom, and as a traditional artist (my degree is in illustration) I HATED that mural too, and would have done the exact same thing. I think your new bath is clean, crisp, and gorgeous in all the ways that matter to you – and to people that have actually needed to do the work to completely rehaul a bathroom (not just thrown up paint and new towels, ie all most apartment dwellers can do because of lease restrictions, therefore all they notice) Kudos to you for being brave enough to put yourself out there, you should be proud! (And, I've stolen a photo of your bathroom floor to show our contractor about possibly copying, it's breathtaking!)

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  34. They don't know what they're talking about!! Your bathroom is beautiful! My fav part is the tile design on the floor. You did an amazing job. Don't let those silly comments bog you down!

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  35. Wow, I'm seriously shocked. Hello?! Do those people have no design sense at all? Your bathroom before was closed-in, dated, the mural was tacky, and it didn't suite your style or needs. The bathroom after is absolutely gorgeous and phenomenal! I LOVE every single change you made, and it suites your family's style and needs, and I'm sure it added tons of value to your home. Your bathroom after reminds me of something I would see in a beautiful magazine. How could anyone say that they prefer the before? Ack!

    Alright, I need to take a chill pill now.

    I'm glad you're handling it so well like you are, but it still hurts, I'm sure. :( I've posted our kitchen reno on HGTV's Rate My Space before and gotten some pretty nasty comments, too. Just take a deep breath and move on with life, you're the one who lives there, not them.

    -Chelsea

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  36. Carolyn10:31 AM

    Wow, that's a lot of comments on AP!

    You have to know that for some reason they chose to show your bathroom! It's beautifully done and the fact that you and your family are happy is MOST important.

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  37. hahaha it made me laugh to read what some people had to say. I love your bathroom, it's clean, and bright... and I don't really need to say anything else. Everyone else here has it covered. You have enough of your own readers to know how wonderful your bathroom (and every other room in your house) is.

    ... for the record, I don't even read Apartment Therapy... I only went to look because of your post.

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  38. It sucks that people can be so catty, but that's just kind of the design world. Good for you for trying not to take it personally! I do find it a little strange that of all the rooms you remodeled, they decided on the bathroom. While it is lovely (and waaaay better without the mural, which screamed eighties to me), it definitely is not a place of "character." Because, duh, it's a family bathroom. Where business takes place, you know? Your other rooms, the ones you actually live in, have tons of personality, character, and charm. I think it's great that your home flows so well from quirky to clean-lined.

    Anyway, try not to let it get you down. You guys are crazy talented and such hard workers, but you can't please everybody. And when it comes to your own home, why should you try? :)

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  39. I can't believe that people don't love your bathroom. I hadn't seen it before but I am in LOVE with your floor, sink and faucet!

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  40. I hate that about Apartment Therapy! Same thing happened to a friend that had her home featured on AT. What happened to that rule- "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all." Ugh!

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  41. I love your bathroom ... and more importantly YOU love your bathroom. It is calm and serene, and the floor is to die for. It's hard to believe all those people were looking at your pictures ... they are just mean ... and blind!

    Congratulations on taking the high road.

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  42. Agree with you on all points. You know what they say about opinions. They are like a##es and everybody has one.

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  43. Anonymous12:35 PM

    I would never in a million (no, trillion! no, more! a gajillion!) years think that anyone would have preferred the god-awful mural version of your bathroom to the classic and elegant version that you made it become.

    I think it's smart to not defend yourself in the comments on the AT site, and to let it be. I guess it's inevitable that some people will be rude. But please know that those of us who GET you are the ones who admire you and support you and love your taste.

    jbhat

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  44. The people commenting on AT are notoriously mean. I wonder what their homes look like? - probably not half as nice as yours!

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  45. I totally agree with you! Your home is YOUR home, and if people don't like it they should just keep it to themselves. I think all your renovations are STELLER and you are making your house a home perfect for your family! And doing a great job at it!

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  46. The bathroom is much approved since you guys moved in. Everything about your bathroom screams luxury!

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  47. I hate that you had such bad feedback. Your bathroom (and house) in my eyes is gorgeous! Good for you in taking the high road. Not everyone has the same taste. I certainly share yours.

    Forget about it and have a fantastic long weekend!!!

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  48. I really love your bathroom. I think it's very classy and calming and lovely. I'd take a bath there. :)

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  49. Boy, you guys know how to make a gal feel good :). Thank you all for your support.

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  50. I'm dying to know what the people who prefer the mural, would have chosen to do if it were their washroom. Infact it really gets my imagination going. I can just picture all the lovely ways they would enhance the mural.

    Perhaps they would choose a macrame and bead shower curtain and use lattice as a tub surround, to give them that feeling of being in a love gazebo. Maybe accesorize with a carefully curated selection of garden gnomes and stone mushrooms. I can just picture a soap dish in the shape of a smiling garden snail. And of course a green shag carpet to complete the "pooing on a manicured garden" theme. Wouldn't that be pure awesomeness! Alas they don't have AT postings for that aesthetic. Such a shame.

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  51. Your renovated bathroom is AWESOME - no worries. The Apartment Therapy people are mostly obnoxious snobs who prefer "originality" rather than function. No worries - it's YOUR bathroom, not theirs. =)

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  52. Blahrgh! Who cares what they think! I check your blog 2-3 times daily (yes, I know, but I'm addicted) - the reason being that I like your style and find you and the family journey interesting. So the heck with anyone who puts a "dis" on you!

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  53. Sorry to hear that. I think your bathroom is great, and if they didn't like it they should have moved on instead of leaving a mean comment. As long as you like your space and it fits your family that is all that matters!

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  54. I never go on AT and now I don't want to as it sounds so negative. I love your bathroom - you did a fabulous job and the look is timeless, clean, and fresh.

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  55. LIke you said you renovated it for your taste and needs. The 90% that disagreed don't live in your home and aren't living in your space. So don't stress over their comments.
    Remember, we can not make everyone one in the world happy with the things we do. Just make sure you are happy 1st and your family as well.

    By the way, I love your bathroom especially the Kohler facet with your vanity. Beautiful.

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  56. It's amazing how people somehow think that style is not subjective. And obviously your bathroom is awesome. ;)

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  57. Oh, you are a brave one! It takes balls to send a project into AT - that site is known for being harsh harsh harsh. We all like your bathroom!

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  58. Really, I never comment that I don't like something. If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all-should be a bloggers rule!

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  59. angela7:02 AM

    Your bathroom is beautiful and shows intricate detailing. The commenters must all be blind :)

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  60. Anonymous5:54 PM

    Wow. I bookmarked this blog because of your bathroom! I think the mural was awful. I'm an avid reader of AT and those comments completely shocked me! Obviously me and the AT readers just don't have the same taste after all. Take it with a grain of salt and enjoy your new space that works for you.. I may be doing a bit of a copy in the near future in my similar bathroom!

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  61. Like everyone else, I am very jealous of your bathroom

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  62. What I've learned about the negative AT commenters:

    1) They're rude JUST for the sake of being rude. They're rude to EVERYONE. It's all a lot of noise w/out really saying much.
    2) Most of them have never lifted a finger to DIY any reno so how would they know a thing about the blood, sweat, & tears that go into it.
    3) They wouldn't know good design if it slapped them upside the head.

    There. I said it.

    That mural in your bathroom before was HEINOUS. I'm sorry but it was and your "after" is an exquisite transformation beyond measure. Know that this corner of the blogworld is/will continue to be awed by the work you've done!

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  63. I am southern and if you don't like it then you for sure don't tell the person.

    I don't know what they are talking about. What is NOT to like about your bathroom. Seriously, they like the before bathroom better? R they crazy?

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  64. Oh... that sucks. I do a lot of my own rennovation and I understand how hard it would be to read such nonsense... especially after all of the hard work that goes into these projects. Keep your head high... your bathroom looks great (in fact it is similar to my remodel, well the black stripe anyway)!

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  65. When I read your post, I thought about Darby and the AT comments about loving her hideous 1960s orange bathroom BEFORE she fixed. I'm so glad she commented. I can't imagine anyone loving her orange bathroom pre-renovation, and I can't imagine anyone loving that faux Monet mural either.

    We originally fell in love with your house based on your gorgeous kitchen renovation, and we both think you did a great job making the most of a small family bathroom. We love the finished space!

    McGee (and Mike reading over her shoulder)

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  66. Ugh, AT readers are such haters. Ignore them...your bathroom is BEAUTIFUL and classic and elegant...things the folks at AT tend not to comprehend in my experience. I've had two of my homes and a few of our projects posted on the site and now I just don't even bother to read the comments because they are so ugly. You did a GREAT job and you shouldn't doubt it for a second!

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  67. I haven't read all the comments (here or on AT), but can I just say that I LOVE the floor? I mean... WOW! That is stunning. You really don't need much more in the space because that floor steals the show!

    (Clicked your link from YHL, by the way.)

    Anyway, I'm sorry it doesn't suit everyones' taste, but I think it's quite lovely.

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  68. Oh, you poor thing - some of those comments are really mean! Ugh. Funny how mean comments can make you forget about the nice ones. Anyway, sounds like those people at AT just like to hear the sound of their own snark, and just be glad you don't have to interact with them in "real" life. I think your bathroom looks great - I once toured an open house that had murals featuring otters in all the bathrooms, and my first thought was, "we buy this place, those otters are DEAD and the last thing they'll remember is the sweet caress of my paintbrush." We didn't buy it, but yuck. :) Keep on keepin' on.

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  69. Oh nevermind the haters, there will ALWAYS be haters... I think your work is amazing, for you, annnnd for me for that matter! I covet your house, your technique, and your style. Good on ya, for being who you are!

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  70. The best thing about this AT debacle is hearing from my readers :). I love reading so many of your blogs so it's a nice surprise to learn you visit over here as well.

    xoxo
    Wanderluster

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  71. Hey-
    Jenny from LGN is right, AT readers can be negative. You're right for not getting in to it with them.
    The bathroom is great, plain and simple. The floors are hot, you and handyman are hitting a home run in my book.
    Renovate on.

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  72. I'm a little late to the party here, but may I just say that your little bathroom renovation has inspired my upcoming renovation project. My husband and I scoured image after image looking for that perfect modern but still classic inspiration... your bathroom was spot on! I'm not too up on the blogging world, but I'm certain that more people liked or were inspired by the post than the ones who took the time to be negative. Thanks for sharing your renovations!

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